Sassy Sober Survivor

    Being a part of a group of women is wicked important.  As you know I talk about my friends alllllll the time and like I talked about in my last post, being in a true unconditional friendship is new to me.  But what I know is that being open to expand that group and/or seek knowledge outside my inner circle is just as crucial.    I was gifted an opportunity to attend the Samhain Session of Weekend Witch School.  I am so grateful and the Universe provided me with this gift when I needed a boost. To be surrounded by Witches in all different parts of their journeys was super powerful.  I was immersed in the language of attraction, deep ancestral teachings, open mindedness and friendship.  There was time to make new connections and to also tend friendships that I made a few years ago.     I have been on many 12 step retreats so I was primed for sitting and note taking with breaks in between.  This retr...

cov·en /ˈkəvən/ noun noun: coven; plural noun: covens a group or gathering of witches who meet regularly. It has been exactley 1 year since we got permanent symbols of our Coven.  Having a safe place to share, grow, fall, stand tall and be supported is essential for women.  I am compelled to share with you what this looks and feels like.     This is my ode to our Coven   •We celebrate together.   We lift each other up and celebrate our triumphs. When they succeed, I succeed. When one of us has good news we ALL have good news. It’s in our separate success we move forward, and celebrate together.  •We support each other.  When one of us flounders the others are there to keep her above water. When things go awry, as it does on occasion, I KNOW my sisters will be there for me, just as I am there for them. Day or night, by phone or in person we support each other.  •We are committed to each other. ...

      friend [ frend ] / frɛnd noun 1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. 2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter . 3. a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile I have always had friends. Girls and guys to chat on the phone, gossip to, make plans to go out...regular friends, feel good friends.   But I’ve never had friends like I do now.  The friends I have now protect me and treat me like a sister. They hold me to a higher standard. They push me to be better. They call me out, they teach me and they want me to be the best I can be. I’m used to being supportive but I struggle to accept help and support when it’s offered.  Now that I am supported I feel safe enough to be authentic.  And being authentic means that I am not always at my best, rational and selfless self.  I can feel good with just about any...

Aunt Flow.  On the rag.  Surf the crimson tide.  On my period.  That time of the month...these are some ways that the world talks about menstruation. Like it is a biiiiiig secret. There is so much shame and embarrassment  surrounding menstruation that there are hundreds of terms to describe this human bodily function. Its talked about in hushed voices behind closed doors. Men AND *some* women think it’s gross, dirty, disgusting even. ‍ We bleed! That’s it!! No big deal right?  WRONG!! It’s some of the most intense beautiful magic that happens and I get to experience it EVERY MONTH! Wow. Just fucking wow.  My body is built to sustain Another Life.  When that purpose goes unfulfilled-  the nourishment, the memories of my ancestors, my DNA at the cellular level exits my body as blood. How couldn’t this be magical? Besides all the silly terms I first mentioned there are other ways to refer to menstruation....

    I have been spending a shit ton of time online lately. Now that I am self employed I have more me-time, a luxury and privilege that I acknowledge and don’t take for granted.  I write, I rest and I DO the things that bring me joy but the pull of social media is wicked strong. I open my eyes each morning and right away reach for my phone to check my media. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and the like. Plus my emails and my blog. Sometimes I end up scrolling for over an hour before I even get out of bed! It’s absurd and time consuming.    T I M E  is important to me. How, who and where I spend it and what I do for my self care are high on my priority list.    So why am I giving up so much of it mindlessly scrolling?!? Well, I have the excuse that I advertise my business online. Aaaaaand my blog is online. I streamlined my timelines to show me only my close friends and people that inspire me. But still I end up scrolling...sc...

*art credit below   Autumn is here so let's chat about something spooky… GHOSTING . I’m going to talk about ghosting and dating because that is where I have personal experience. All ages, genders and orientations engage in this behavior and it is not exclusive to any one group. There are other types of ghosting like friend ghosting and ghosting due to abusive or toxic relationships but I want to exclusively speak about the dating/hookup kind. Urban Dictionary defines this action as the following: Ghosting   -The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.  -This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.   - Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject's maturity and communication ...