Sassy Sober Survivor

*art credit below   Autumn is here so let's chat about something spooky… GHOSTING . I’m going to talk about ghosting and dating because that is where I have personal experience. All ages, genders and orientations engage in this behavior and it is not exclusive to any one group. There are other types of ghosting like friend ghosting and ghosting due to abusive or toxic relationships but I want to exclusively speak about the dating/hookup kind. Urban Dictionary defines this action as the following: Ghosting   -The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.  -This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.   - Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject's maturity and communication skills . Many attempt

Here I am, waiting for my date to arrive and I’m nervous.  I mean, this was all orchestrated by me, I slid into his DM’s and invited myself on a day date...but that’s neither here nor there.  I'm feeling anxious, about meeting someone I don't know but the underlying anxiety is more insidious.   I don't have a full time job for the first time in 10 years.  I don't have a steady income and I'm fucked up about it.  Did I make a mistake? Holy shit...what have I done??????? Then this little ladybug lands on my hand and I exhale.  It zipped me right back into reality. Whew, spiral averted.  Reality is that I am okay, better than okay because I am free. It’s Monday...and I’m not at a job that I hate…I’m spending time doing something fun and out of the ordinary.  I took the train into Haymarket and had a leisurely morning stroll through Faneuil Hall.  I read the Metro and did the crossword puzzle in the shadow of the New England Aquarium.   I am FREE! I feel

(written 8/20/19)  Last night I watched my friend give birth to her 10 pound baby.  At her house…in a pool…in her  bedroom…naturally.  It was the most profound and powerful thing I have ever witnessed in my  entire life. Just for a little background… Corrine and I are relatively new friends.  We met through our mutual friend Angelina in 2016.  And that was just through Facebook.  I didn’t even meet her face to face until December of that  year.  When I was having a spiritual experience, supernatural is a more accurate description, Angie referred me to Corrine.  So I, as a practical stranger, called her and told her all about it.  She took it in stride, listened and offered support.  She held space for me and my experience.  She didn’t make me feel weird or crazy; she validated my feelings and made me feel safe. I’m forever grateful she was willing to talk to me, love me from a distance and freely give her  friendship. Fast forward… Corrine,